This is what a Gay vet looks like. Just in case you don't have Gaydar.
This is Eric Fidelis Alva, the first person wounded in the War in Iraq. He has a life-partner (Darrell), but they're not married because AMERICANS ARE DICKHEADS for the most part and only one state allows same-sex partners to marry. Here's an interview with him.
Thanks Bill Clinton. Don't Ask, Don't Tell, thirteen years later and it still sucks. It's a chickenshit policy now, it was a chickenshit policy then. Oh, let's not forget the Defense of Marriage Act, another one of Bill Clinton's legacy gifts to Gays and Lesbians in this country.